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Finding the perfect baby name is hard. I don’t know many people these days just dying to use one of the BabyCenter’s Popular Baby Names. Sure, many of ours unexpectedly turn up on there, but if you’re like me, you want a name that’s far, far from the top 100.
I blame this on my parents who decided to name me Jennifer. My whole life I’ve jumped at the mention of my name, when the person calling wasn’t asking for me.
There were five Jennifer’s in my 6th grade class. Five!
My husband Brian, dealt with similar situations. So while we automatically agree to set out to find more unique names, we also would like some that are, I guess you could say… “Ethnically neutral”.
Before you jump down my throat about there being no such thing as “black names” or “white names” just humor me for a moment ok?
Of course it’s all stereotypical; nevertheless, there are some names that can make you assume what the person will look like when you meet them.
Take my sister Heather for instance. She tells me how funny it is when she calls to set up a hair appointment at a black salon, and gives them her name “Heather.” They pause for a moment then ask to make sure they heard correctly, and when she arrives, are surprised to see she’s black.
When I was pregnant with my daughter people asked me if I had names on my list like Shaniqua, or LaQuisha. Really? My name is Jennifer and you think I’m having a LaQuisha?
My mother gave us all somewhat ethnically neutral names: Jennifer, Heather, Michael, Lauren and Kimberly. She said this was for our benefit. People wouldn’t look at our names on a resume and assume what we looked like. Of course there are people with these names with all different backgrounds. But ours are a little too plain for my taste.
See I’m black, my husband is white. And we’d like a name that fits in between. It’s not because we care what other people think of the name, it’s because that’s our taste.
I’ll give an example… I like the name Dominic but my husband insists it’s too white in his opinion. He went as far as saying “that’s the whitest name ever.” Then, when searching through my baby name book I stumbled upon “Brady” and he moved Dominic down to #2 on the whitest name list.
On the other side of the coin, I (jokingly) suggested LaBryon, giving my husband a cool Jr. I told my mom and sisters that was my name choice and they laughed at me calling it “too black” for my half white baby, or maybe a little too telling. (But predestined for superstardom no less).
So, our 2-year-old daughter’s name is Jayda, and we think it’s perfect. So we’d like something equally as perfect to fit in with our growing brood.
Here are some of our biracial name options for baby #2:
Tatiana (or Tiana)
Not much for a list just let, but with your help maybe we can make it grow.
We do need help with baby names. Given our taste, what suggestions do you have? Did you struggle with finding a name that “fit” with your family?
Jennifer is a news anchor and reporter by day and a blogger and wannabe domestic diva by night. She’s a mom 24/7 to a two year old daughter and a baby on the way. For more of Jennifer’s ramblings, follow @BabyMakingMama on Twitter and Pinterest and read more from her at BabyMakingMachine.com.
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